Celebrating +Loving our Post-Partum bodies
*Triggering Post *
The hardest and most amazing thing we go through as a woman is watching our bodies change as we grow a tiny little human in us. After we give birth some of us obsess over trying to get our “old” bodies back, and some of us spend our whole lives saying we have a “mom bod” and hating on how different it looks. - I know I did. After I had my first I have to admit, I wasn’t in love with my body but what I was in love with, was the fact that it birthed, neutered, and housed not one, but two tiny little beings, so I couldn’t help but feel grateful for everything it did, it transformed me twice. It created, grew, and delivered my children and I don’t know about you, but I think that’s pretty cool that we can do that.
For some of us, it’s easy for us to create little miracles, but the hardship we don’t talk about too often is that we also get angry with our bodies when we feel like they have failed us. (I personally have been through this). Not being able to conceive, miscarriage(s), and/or possibly losing a child leads us believing and hating our body for not protecting and doing what we’ve been physically designed to do. (for some of us at least) It’s an easy target. It takes time for us to heal, and honestly a whole lot of forgiveness, and grace to love our body for everything it has put us through, but we need to remember, and remind ourselves that it is not our fault.
I wish I could steal this line, but I once heard someone say that they view their body as a vessel for their experience in the world rather than a symbol of their value to the world, and that really stuck. I feel like we tend to heal faster, and stronger when we take care of our mind, body and soul after giving birth or experiencing a loss, and I know how difficult it can be to try and balance those things out afterwards but as a woman, we know that we are INCREDIBLE, and loving, and celebrating our bodies when it has gone through so many changes, and stress takes a lot of strength.
It’s important to be grateful and impressed with what we can/have accomplished; don’t let your body hang-ups prevent you from feeling amazing about yourself. Try to avoid getting that “old body” back and figure out how to live life in your NEW body. Life is too short to be constantly worrying about the “imperfections” that only you can see, and notice. Anytime your brain starts mentally cataloguing all the negative changes, remember that it’s up to you to change your thought pattern. Start telling your body you love her and focus on your belly for everything that is has done and been through whether it was the gift of a child, or the experience of a loss. Give yourself time, know that you’re powerful, beautiful, and fierce.
Remember that you are not alone, and that it is okay to reach out. If you feel like you’re having a hard time talking about these changes and can’t reach out - I suggest starting a journal, and writing down “I honor my body”, and repeat it EVERY day as many times as you can until you believe that it’s the absolute truth. Write down how you feel, and why you feel that way. Be in awe of yourself, you’re a sexy badass bitch.